The Mysticenter
Turning Life Upside
Down
When we think of our emotions, we consider that they are the reflection of what is going on around us. When we encounter someone’s pain, whether physical or emotional, we feel sad. When someone frustrates our progress or what we feel is best for them, we feel angry. When someone has hurt us in any way, we feel pain, and so forth. But what we need to know is that the condition of our emotions creates our experience. That is, like draws like. If we are surrounded by negative emotions, we will draw negativity to ourselves. If we feel joy and happiness, we will be surrounded by happiness. If we expect the worst in any given situation, sure enough! It will happen. If we know, truly, in our heart of hearts that good is coming to us, it will.
The principal at work is that our state of emotions creates angels—energy forms with a singular power to do good or not so good things in our lives—around us. If things are bad and we have succumbed to the pressure by feeling defeated, we will be surrounded by negative angels. If, however, we can continue to feel optimistic, we are all the better for it, because we gather positive energy angels to our aid and assistance. In other words, good enhances good, while bad multiplies bad.
Sometimes, because of our life experiences, we tend to give up on positive things to come into our lives. Perhaps we have had a shining experience that just shouts of good things, only to fall flat. Why does this happen? We’ve done everything right—said affirmations and meditated on the correct 72-Name or prayed—but still, in the end, it is a no-go. There are several things that can be blocking the path. One is that for every little bit of light that comes our way, we are beholden to give thanks to the Creator. If we are looking for money to come our way, each penny donated, each dime’s worth of orders, each dollar we earn or each gift of entitlement, we must focus our mind and hearts on the energy of thankfulness. If you can, picture the words, “Thank you” in white letters as you repeat, “thank you,” vocally. But this is just one step.
Another blockage may be in our ultimate expectation that we will get taken advantage of by someone, whether that person is someone with whom we have an emotional connection, a business relationship, a social friendship, etc. When we expect the worst to happen, we may as well be pushing a giant boulder along our path. At the same time, there may be a ton of bricks of negative experiences in our backpacks that assure our conscious mind that we should expect bad things to happen. Then every time something doesn’t go our way, sure enough! We have proof—undisputable proof!—that our estimation that people will treat us badly is absolutely correct.
When we search this kind of negativity out, we are doing so out of low self-esteem. Mistrust may be something that we have learned, but that doesn’t mean we have to make it a lifestyle. I’m not saying it’s easy to step out of, rather, we must make the effort to free ourselves from this kind of pattern in order to clear away the negative angels that are placing our lives in a holding pattern that feels like a hamster wheel, where we go around and around the same little path.
It is when we do everything right, but then maintain an attitude toward the Creator of “prove it to me” that we are going to get slammed. The Creator created this planet, the Universe, you, me—everything that exists. If you’re going to say, “Prove it to me,” the Creator is going to look at you and say, “forget it until you grow up a little.” Perhaps that sounds harsh, but it means that you have no reason to doubt the Creator. If you acknowledge that the Creator is the source of all good, not the U.S. Government, not your customers, not your boss, not your buddies—the Creator is the Source of all good—you will know that good will come your way. The key then becomes being able to recognize the good when it does come.
This is particularly difficult if we are looking for a particular kind of love relationship to come into our lives. Perhaps we want characteristics A, B, C, D, E, F, I, J and L, but not G, H, or K. Perhaps we wouldn’t even consider anyone with G characteristics at all. So the Creator sends to us the person with the closest possible alignment, but this person has characteristic G. Then we get all in a fluff because we can’t tolerate G. We expect that the Creator sends us our made-to-order model. Why?
This is a social problem--entitlement. We are accustomed to ordering from a restaurant and when our meal comes, if it is not what we ordered, we send it back. Say we’ve ordered liver and onions and they send liver and onions with bacon. Instead of thinking,” bonus!” perhaps we say we didn’t want bacon this time and we send the order back. So we think we can do the same thing with the Creator. We put in our order and if everything goes right for us, we’re happy, but if the Creator sends us something other than what we ordered, (motivated by his desire to teach us something or because we have karma to work out) we get all mad and pouty and complain that this is not what we want. We might even throw a temper tantrum and curse at the Creator for not giving us what we want. So the people who are sent into our lives are there for our spiritual growth: good people and bad people. Sometimes they come to give us strength in our convictions. Sometimes they give us lessons in humility, patience, compassion, tolerance or a host of other things. But you can bet they are there for a reason and if you ask yourself, “why?” long enough, perhaps you will see the reason.
Last month we talked about the Ego being the opposite of Self-esteem. We must also be honest with ourselves and decide whether we are dissatisfied because it is our ego that is not being fed or whether we are worthy of better as a child of the Creator. This may be a value judgment or it may be that we really need to look at this part of ourselves and decide if the ego is being reactive and we need to put that in check or if we are considering the matter fully, and taking appropriate action. If we are filled with negative emotions, we can conclude it is the ego that is involved. If we are filled with joy, everyone comes out a winner by having a raise in self-esteem.
The key here is to look inside before blowing your cool and pointing a finger at someone else. If you are having reactive ego issues, before you jump from one situation to another, to another, take the time to correct your reactions. Build up your self-esteem by taking an inventory of who you are so that you don’t have to receive validation from an external source, so that you aren’t having a knee-jerk reaction every time things don’t go your way. When you’ve healed your past, you can move forward unrestricted. Just don’t think that the Creator will allow you to proceed with business as usual while you are healing.
In other words, spend time working with the Creator to heal the part that hurts. Build your connection with the Creator. Pray. Meditate. Journal. Focus on the good that you have in your life. Give thanks for the roof over your head, the food you eat, the bed you sleep in, the ride you have, your health, your body, the ability to read, walk and talk, etc., etc., etc. The more things you can think of to be thankful for, including the people in your life, the more the positive angels will hang out in your neck of the woods and the more you will find positive things coming your way. But don’t expect change if you are caught up in blaming others. Don’t expect change if you are not willing to change yourself first. Allow yourself to heal.
As the saying goes, “Some people are in our lives for a reason, others, a season and some for the rest of our lives.” There may be some situations in which we have learned the lesson we need to learn and so we become the teacher. We will know that we are the teacher because the other person continues to act out of ego. When they lose their willingness to hear what is being said to them, we know that there is little more we can do for them. It is then time to let them go. Perhaps they will come back into our lives when they have learned a little more, but sometimes there is only so much they can learn at any given time. We have to allow that person to come and go as he or she needs to, while maintaining unconditional love for him or her and praying that he or she find the path that will lead to what is sought.
The important thing is to let go of that person. The will of the Creator is at play. We must not let our own egos take control and believe that we can fix someone, whatever the role that person plays in our lives, even if it is a spouse or child. In these cases, the expression, “Let go and let God,” could not be more applicable. When the Ego says, “help this person,” it is a means by which we control that person. It is the first clue to give space to the situation. Again, this is difficult even for someone who is well advanced in spirituality. But we must own our feelings of insecurity and desire to control the outcome. When we realize this, it becomes apparent that the Creator is at work. When relief comes over us, we know we have aligned our hearts and minds with the Creator in this matter. We can say, “thank you for this lesson,” and we can pray for the Creator’s will to be done.
When we acknowledge “There is None Else Beside Him”—meaning all things are formed of the Creator, he is in all things, all people, all creation, then we recognize there is no manipulation or interference from outside sources. This person, that person, each person is part of the Creator, just like you, just like me. How empowering to know that no one can stop us from attaining our good. How empowering it is to know that each person can have good in his or her life. How empowering it is to know that we just have to touch in with the Light to raise ourselves out of the muck. If we can turn our negative lives upside down, we will see that the Light has been there all the time—and it always will be there.
May you be richly blessed!